I’ve been hemming and hawing over grouping these words into sentences for an hour or so mainly in my brain but also over text to my friend Amanda.
During the holidays there are articles and videos and news segments about dealing with this or that or the other thing. There are lists of coping with depression or grief or being away from home or being alone or being single or divorced and literally everything in between.
I don’t like to add to white noise.
But the nagging in the back of my brain reminds me that there’s probably something I need to say for myself anyway.
I live a full life.
An always-busy-never-see-my-roommate-have-no-clean-clothes-survive-on-espresso-and-la-croix full kind of life.
I honestly couldn’t count on one hand the amount of completely free weeks I had in 2016.
Sometimes I overdue it and I’m learning to say no.
The holidays are like my normal schedule on crack. Presents to buy, presents to wrap, cookies to bake, parties to throw, parties to attend and also sleep and sanity.
I came home Friday night after having beers with coworkers and just sat in my dark house watching tv. Because, along with all the things that the holidays brings it also brings anxiety.
I think all of the lists and articles are good.
But I also think it’s ok to take a moment to sit in the dark. It’s ok to take a breath. It’s ok to miss a party so that you don’t have to “make it through” the holidays but so you can enjoy them.
For me, sometimes I’m sad. Sometimes I have anxiety. Something being a single person during the holidays is hard.
Sometimes I need to sit in the dark.
So I did.
And it helped.
Because I live a full life.
I have people that love me and I love them back.
I have a job and a life and traditions that I am creating regardless of my marital status.
So my mantra for the holidays is this: choose to sit in the dark with some Christmas lights on. Choose to slowly drink your coffee or catch up with a friend while baking. Choose to cry if you need to and wipe your tears off so they don’t freeze on your cheeks. Choose to do what you need to do to enjoy the holidays not just survive them.
Choose to have this be the year that redefines how you live during the holidays.
Savouring, laughing, and maybe, just maybe, sitting in the dark sometimes.